Do you ever miss what someone has said, or find that you don’t notice things, or hardly remember what has happened it your day?
What happened? You were blinded!
I have a little test for you. Play the video and take your test.
Did you notice anything? I won’t say what it was in case you haven’t watched the video.
Can you imagine how many things that you miss out on? And all because you were caught up in your thoughts or on the phone!
It happens to us all. But there is an important side to what I am saying. If I had a penny for every person that comes to see me saying
I didn’t have time to do the things you suggested
I never noticed that, or thought about it that way …
Or when I ask about their day, I get a vague answer. It was awful, I was so busy, so stressed.
Yes, I say, but what were you actually doing? I don’t know is usually the answer. I was working, at home, looking after the kids.
When I ask, what specifically was so awful about your day, they really don’t know and when I pull it apart for them, it usually comes down to what they were thinking about.
To get so stressed or upset, when nothing is actually happening right at that second, requires a sustained amount of effort from your thought processes. Or in other words;
If it is not happening right now, you have to think about something bad to make you feel bad!
When you do this, it takes effort, and you become blind to what is around you. This is important, as maybe what is around you, is not so bad.
What you pay attention to is so important to how you feel. Most of us are out of control. Maybe you never even thought about the fact, that you can choose to control what your mind pays attention to. It’s hard at first, but with practice, you can be in the driving seat.
Take for example what you are doing right now. You and I are in a conversation. There is a bit of delay between me writing the words, and when you read them, but we are still communicating. My words might be making you stop and think.
If that is the case, then it is like we are together, as my words, are making you think a little differently.
I want you to try something. Don’t look away from what you are reading, sort of stare at the screen.
Without looking away, can you see anything around you, out of the corners of your eyes, your peripheral vision.
Of course you can, but the point I am trying to make is, how aware were you, when you were watching the video, or taking part in our conversation? Probably not aware. You were paying attention to these words, and effectively blinded to what was around you!
That is normal. It is also good, as you would be overloaded with information if you had to pay attention, (the way you did in the video with the numbers) to everything around you. Your brain couldn’t hack it.
What I want you take away from our moment together is to question how much of your mind can you control?
Do you think you could learn to pay attention differently? Maybe learn not to focus too much on the things that upset you, and start to try to pay attention to the things that make you feel good?
Drop me a comment below and tell me what you think, or if you have any examples of your own, I’d love to read them!