I mentioned fragility. Let’s discuss now frailty. I know lots of us are scared. Some of us venture out with our hearts in our mouths, terrified of all the things that might happen.
The noise in the marketplace, the crush of autos in the streets, the ceaseless barrage of noise that permeates our lives. It is indeed enough to make a person afraid. It is sufficient to elevate anxiety and kindle fear. However, anxiety and fear are general responses that can be dealt with.
The noise, the hustle, the bustle can be frightening, but it can also make a person feel terribly alone. At points in my life, I’ve felt that way. The old saying, “alone in a crowd,” got to become an old saying because it can be so very true.
However, staying apart from the congress of life won’t help us overcome anxiety; isolation will only help us avoid some anxiety provoking situations.
Yet, anxiety is a progressive disorder than can leave a person paralyzed in a corner. That does not have to be the outcome for anyone reading this blog. There’s many ways to circumvent and defeat fear and anxiety.
As changing the world is a hard bargain, changing ourselves is somewhat more manageable. Living with intention can be immensely useful. Intention is part of mindfulness and deliberation. Intention means taking the reins of your life, even if the reins are quite small and your objectives seem tiny.
All objectives are cumulative. You can live intentionally by setting a goal as simple as reducing your time in worry by 10 minutes a day. How do you do that? Many healthy ways exist. Some people clean house. Some take walks. Some…and so forth. One thing you do want to avoid is accidentally creating a compulsive behaviour to cancel out worry—which is a compulsive behaviour.
A way to avoid creating compulsions to avoid compulsions is to develop a master list of things to do rather than panic. You may say to yourself, or to me—“You make it sound like I have a choice about whether or not I panic”—and in many cases, you do have a choice. You’re reading this blog. That tells me you’re ready to learn new ways to manage unbearable emotional strain.
After all, that’s what drives anxiety and panic. Pain. The presence of pain turns on our body’s fight or flight mechanisms, we end up with a system flooded with adrenaline, cortisol, and histamine, which are all wonderful agents—when they are actually called for. When the body is damaged.
If we aren’t actually in a fight—or a flight for our lives, these three substances do far more harm than good. We’ll talk about them later, but right now, you do need to know, you’re not completely helpless—you can take those reins and start living intentionally. Frailty is part of being human, but it is just a part of us, not our destiny.