We are all Fragile. Be Glad of It.
If you’re reading this blog because your life is absolutely positively brilliantly put together, well-done! I cannot say that myself.
I’m a member of the “we aim for progress, not perfection” brigade. Like the title says, we’re fragile. We’re fragile people, fragile personalities, and fragile beings. However, that doesn’t deny that we’re also amazingly tough when we must be.
Is this double-talk? Not hardly. Everyone has one thing, one event (at least one) that could wreck them. We never really know what that is, although many of us worry, fret and accelerate our anxiety through the redline trying to imagine what horror it’d take to do us in. I don’t recommend that path.
I do recommend living and even enjoying our lives fearlessly, because we are all fragile and we are all strong, but fortunately when I’m fragile, you’re strong. Together we can support one another.
Anxiety and stress behaviors may seem unbeatable due to fragility, but they are not. Far from it.
Strength can be learned, and when it comes to anxiety, knowledge is power beyond measure. Tweet this.
Anxiety doesn’t simply happen; it is a reaction to a threat we think is out there, a threat that might be coming towards us. Some anxieties have basis in fact.
If I have uni exams but spend all weekend drinking and partying, will I be anxious the night before the exams? More than likely. However, let’s reconsider the circumstances: the exams just didn’t materialize out of thin air, did they?
I didn’t accidentally stumble into a pub and drink myself shnoggers. While the anxiety may be real, what we’re see are the natural and logical consequences of actions. I made decisions. Now I have to live with consequences.
How do I gain power over that situation? The bad mark might be inevitable, but the ultimate outcome may not be. Did fragility prompt me to drink myself silly? Probably not. But strength will help me remember the cause and effects of the situation as long as I’m tough enough to own up to my actions and their consequences.
If I’m not,then I know others who will gently, kindly, give me a bollocking until I do own up!