What kind of voices do you hear? Not those kind of voices, but the voices that let you know whether or not you’re on the right track.
Or do your voices insist you can’t succeed? Are they harsh, approving, or simply cautious?
As I’ve blogged before, we develop internal critics at an early age, and they can bring us tremendous strides in our personal growth or they can inhibit us.
Negative internal messages can shoot our anxiety through the roof. In an effort to get those kinds of voices silent, let’s use meditation as a means of dissolving inner negativity.
When you meditate, thoughts, judgments, memories surface. Observe them without any internal judgment. We tend to try to suppress negativity, and once we quit spending energy on our suppression mechanisms, the bad comes roaring out.
Don’t let that frighten you or stop you. See all negativity and unpleasant memories with healthy detachment, and don’t try to suppress them or pretend they aren’t real. See them, but let them go. They’ll take their path and vanish.
This is one reason why even a few minutes of meditation every day can be very helpful to all of us.
The emergence of darker emotions, experiences and thoughts have less and less power over us the more we can mindfully observe them, inside a state of detachment, and let them pass through us without harming us.
The experience can become routine. In time, the negativity will stop returning. You’ve quit feeding it your time, your energy, and your spirit. As you’ve given the negativity no place to hide or stay, you will—in time—become free of it.
Now, don’t mistake “negativity” for real issues that need addressing. If you’re having problems in a relationship, meditation will help clear your mind and assist you in getting centered.
Meditation will help you get your feelings straight, but it won’t actually communicate with your partner, spouse or friend for you. You still have to engage in that process.
If you have traumas from the past that you’ve never addressed in the present moment, or feelings that you’ve stuffed down deep, those need to be cared for openly.
Meditation helps calm and relieve turmoil, anxiety and stress. However, it can’t be used as a substitute for the often tough work involved in confronting traumatic experiences.
Remember, mindful awareness and meditation are not the same creature. They co-exist, but each has its own purpose and function.