In a previous post I talked about some basic steps toward controlling chaos and beating anxiety in the process of becoming centered.
I inter-mingled the two because it’s hard to take a break, a few weeks off and work on re-establishing your center.
Most people these days can’t afford to do that, and while thinking about what you’re going to do is absolutely the right thing, if you do it on holiday and return to the chaos of work and other life demands, it’s easy to fall back into old habits: anxiety, stress, and perpetual worry.
Instead, taking time each day—even if only 5 to 15 minutes in the first days—and making incremental, slow progress is the best way to beat anxiety and get yourself anchored!
Last post I briefly discussed how meeting a problem or stress-provoking situation with something other than anxiety and worry wouldn’t feel right at first.
Part of that feeling of wrongness comes from meeting an essentially emotional response with a rational solution. Emotions tend not to be rational, and as much as we are feeling, emoting creatures, we all have the potential to bring out our logical, problem-solving selves.
Note: not all emotions are irrational. Not at all!
But they can become irrational when they make leaps from “situation” to “catastrophe” with little to no evidence of impending doom.
And as we discussed earlier, assuming we know why people are doing things, and how the future will work itself out is folly. We have to live in the present, in the now, as both emotional and rational human beings.
Sure—it is far easier said than done. So we must work on doing it, a step at a time.
As we accomplish each small task on our list of jobs, broken down into manageable pieces, our sense of accomplishment will rise.
Our sense of being capable and competent will rise. This “uplift” effect can help us tackle bigger issues, in time.
Notice the words I’ve been using prominently? “Patience” “Time” “Small steps”—-repetitive, but I want to get my point across.
Too often, anxiety comes from the metaphorical attempt to eat an elephant in one gulp. One eats an elephant a spoonful at a time.
With time and patience, you’ll have devoured the elephant. That might not be a tasty analogy, but it’s apt. Of course there will always be people who make demands on us that are simply undoable. That’s their nature as people.
You might say, “With my workload, I don’t have time to make any little lists,” but I can tell you—workgroups of all sizes use project management programs or processes that keep projects and people on-task and productive.
Project management is nothing more than list making, built up and intensified. You can learn it on your own.